I once thought that I needed to find a balance between my home life and business life. I struggled to determine the right schedule that would fit all the parts of my life and what hours I would devote to learning new skills, marketing, client work and admin tasks and then all the different roles in my personal and home life.
The biggest struggle was actually following the schedule that I would so meticulously create.
Have you been there, too? Feeling so overwhelmed with all the roles in your life that it stops you from being who you are truly meant to be? You want to do more – be more – but you can’t even seem to get through the day without feeling guilty that this didn’t get done or that still needs doing.
I’ve spent way to much time in that mindset. The organizer in me thought that I just needed to plan and follow that plan.
The free spirit in me wanted to nix routines and go with the flow.
These two opposing forces have been the leading cause of overwhelm and I can’t say I’ve ever ‘balanced’ my business and home life in the 10 years I’ve been working from home. Although I’ve gotten exceptionally good at balanced yoga postures 🙂
Looking back I realize that my biggest issue was my guilty, confused perceptions.
I felt like I should be spending more time on my business when I was in my mom/wife/homemaker role. And I felt like I should be spending more time on home stuff when I was in my entrepreneur role.
Then, to add even more salt to the wound, I followed this frustrated, overwhelmed and under-confident feeling too long. I’d get depressed, feeling like I wasn’t accomplishing much of anything in every area of my life. So, naturally I wasn’t achieving much in any area because I let the negative mind chatter get the best of me.
I was focused on what wasn’t working and regularly forgot about the adventure side of entrepreneurship, and the blessings of having a family.
I’ve got better control of my thoughts now. I say better control, because I didn’t get rid of them. Those same thoughts still come up, but I don’t let them settle now.
My focus on the difficulties of building a business while in the throes of home life was taking me down.
Since I’ve made the vital paradigm shift to focus on the opportunities that a home-based business brings me, I’ve gotten off the crazy cycle of overwhelm. I still feel overwhelmed from time to time – so is life…I handle it with calm and some change in my routine.
I pour out my gratitude daily for being able to have the opportunity to nurture my business side and keep the lifestyle I desire for me and my family.
Your field of focus determines what you find in life:
- → focus on opportunities and that’s what you’ll find
- → focus on obstacles and that’s what you’ll find
These words are always close in my mind.
They are the foundation of my home business philosophy. Problems, challenges and obstacles are guaranteed. There is no avoiding them completely.
Success, growth and opportunities are guaranteed too. However I’ve found that I can actually avoid them when I let the obstacles get the better of me.
Does my business philosophy resonate with you? Write our your own and if you’re in a sharing mood, post it in the comments below.
Always be learning!
Steph has been building businesses, mostly from home, for over 10 years. She provides virtual marketing services and consulting and also coaches entrepreneurs to start and grow their business from home. Steph educates her two boys at home and they are all comfortably nestled in trees in Central Ontario. She loves being a home-body and building up her permaculture property.